Dear Women Everywhere

Below is my response to a since-deleted article from The Huffington Post. The post was titled "Young Ladies of the SEC, Cover It Up!" and the author made it her job to school young women for their clothing choices at a recent football game. The article spread like wildfire across social media, and many of the comments were complimentary, which made me both sad and angry. You can read the article here. My response is below.

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Dear women everywhere,

 

Let's agree to do each other a solid (whatever that means) and stop judging one another. Let's stop the slut shaming, the body shaming, and degrading one another in any form or fashion.

 

I was a college student myself 18 years ago (seriously...18 years?!?!). I have no doubt that some of my fashion choices at that time were questionable, but thankfully social media wasn't around then for women to share open letters to my friends and me, telling us we looked "classless."

 

I can say with full confidence that I wore some things that others would deem skimpy. But you know what? I was a teenager; I was having fun with fashion and trends; I was still trying to figure life and myself out...a common theme for all college students.

 

Some of my favorite memories from college revolve around getting ready for a night out with my girlfriends. We'd share clothes or jewelry (hello tattoo chokers); we'd help one another choose our outfits for the night, and most importantly we were together...laughing and just living...enjoying the moment of being young and carefree.

 

I can imagine that many nights my bra straps were exposed (seriously, is this a big deal?), and I can imagine that many nights I thought my friends and me looked irresistible. And you know what? That's a good thing! To be able, at a young age, to own one's appearance and to walk confidently into a room of your peers? It surely beats the alternative.

 

Young ladies everywhere, please know this: your clothing choices do not define you. Your amount of class is not measured by what you are (or are not) wearing. Being proud of your body and showing skin does not make you tasteless. You are SO much more than your appearance, and at the same time, it is OK to have fun with it...to embrace this time in your life where you are just trying to figure out who you are. In the words of Madonna: "Express yourself."

 

To the women who are judging the clothing choices of college kids: to put it simply...get a life. If gossiping about the outfits that young women are wearing to football games is consuming your time, you're doing life wrong.

 

The author of the original post was worried about these "scantily-clad" women because families attend these games, and "little eyes are watching." And, sorry not sorry, but that's just ridiculous. Yes, families attend football games, but I can assure you that the children there do not care what college girls are or are not wearing. Children are cool like that. In fact, we all need to be more like our children. You know what they are doing? They're running around with their friends; they're laughing; they're getting sweaty and dirty, and they are living life. I know one thing they're not doing: they're not gossiping about others.

 

To women everywhere: be proud of your body and wear whatever makes you happy. You know the saying, "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Believe that.

 

Make a conscience decision to build one another up rather than tearing one another down. Compliment a fellow female. Embrace your individuality. Most importantly, love yourself; love others. We'll all be better for it.

 

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Things Christians Say

I've written before about my belief that maybe everything doesn't happen for a reason. You can read my thoughts on that topic here.

 

That's a clichéd response that we oftentimes hear fellow Christians utter when someone is going through a tragic time. Intended to be comforting, it most often is not.

 

I wanted to talk about another thing Christians say that I sometimes think might get misconstrued...especially by those who don't believe in God.

 

When good things happen in our lives, I many times hear the phrase: "God is good." Or: "God is good all the time, and all the time God is good." And, yes...a million times yes. God IS good. I believe that with every fiber of my being. But here's where I take issue: we only hear this phrase when something good has happened in our lives...when we get good news, whether it be that a lump in your breast is benign and not malignant or something on a much smaller scale such as buying your first home. Many times these statements are followed with #blessed, and don't even get me started on that.

 

"I bought my first house today! God is so good!"
 

"My child got a full scholarship! God is so good!"
 

"My cancer is gone. God is so good."

 

And yes, y'all. God is so good! Please don't think I'm saying that He is not. However...do we ever hear that sentiment in these instances:

 

"I wasn't approved for a loan so I'll be living with my parents for another year. God is so good!"
 

"We just took out a second mortgage so our child can go to college. God is so good."
 

Or in the most serious of instances: "The cancer that I prayed would be gone has actually spread. God is so good!"

 

Can you see why this statement uttered when life is going well can seem disingenuous? I know that people who use that phrase do believe that God is good. I know that they are genuine and mean well. But would they say that under the worst circumstances? So the chemo didn't work to cure your cancer, and you're looking at only a few more months here on this Earth: "God is good all the time, and all the time God is good." Hmm. I'd imagine if you said that to someone who had recently received terrible news you might get punched in the face...and rightfully so.

 

But guess what? God IS good all the time, but sometimes our life circumstances are not. When life throws us curveballs, is God no longer good?

 

When we only acknowledge God's goodness during the happy times in our lives it makes it seem like God is only good then. And it makes it appear that God is some magician in the sky who grants our wishes if only we pray hard enough and often enough.

 

We don't need to publicly acknowledge God's goodness only when favorable things happen in our lives. We also need to recognize His presence during the tough times too. God is still good when life seems to be unraveling around us. He is the ONE who has helped me wade through some of the hardest times in this life. He is the reason I was able to keep going. Because of his grace and mercy I was able to move forward. Yes, God is good.

God's goodness is not conditional; it is constant. In fact it's the only constant I know on this Earth.

 

"Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." -- Lamentations 3:22-23

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Weekend Update

Hope everyone had a happy weekend. We had a slow few days, and it was just what we needed!

 

I spent Saturday morning catching up on some emails and did so in my new favorite lounge pants. Seriously, guys, these are the best. They're soft and comfy, but they're also fitted (and tapered at the ankle) so I think they'd even look cute out of the house with a long tee and some fun sneakers. I like them so much I ordered the navy version (which were on sale, but it looks like they've already sold out).

 

 Make + Model Jogger Lounge Pants

 

I'm also really loving this fleece pair and the fun tie dye at the ankle.

 

Make + Model Fleece Lounge Pants

 

Saturday afternoon I took Lily to a birthday party, and she had the BEST time. It does my heart good to see her having so much fun with her new classmates. She has especially bonded with one little girl, Averie, and they are two peas in a pod.

 

 

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Sunday we went to church as a family and spent the rest of the day getting ready for the week. I got some precious pictures of my girls yesterday. They're wearing matching Mississippi State dresses that my grandparents gave them last weekend. The Bulldogs won their game against South Carolina on Saturday night, so we were celebrating a little!

 

 

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Today I've got some errands to run, and I'm going to *try* to work out...I worked out twice last week, and my goal is to fit it in three times a week. There is really no good reason I can't do that.

 

I'm also on a mission to get together something fall-ish for a centerpiece on our dining room table. I like simple and not too cheesy, and I'm really liking this picture I found online.

 

 

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I hope everyone has a great Monday! :)

 



Bootie Love

I think I've made it known that I'm a fall-holic. One reason: I can finally break out my booties again. I'm kind of obsessed, and I'm hoping to add a new pair or two this season. Here are some of my favorites so far!

 

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Can y'all believe these are TOMS? The heel is a little high for me (I'm 5'10" and usually wear lower heels), but I love the color, the peep toe, and the perforations.

 

TOMS Majorca Suede Bootie

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This pair is a favorite. Maybe not the most practical when it gets cold, but for the early fall months they'd be perfect.

 Jeffrey Campbell Taggart Cutout Bootie

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I'm kicking myself for not taking the plunge and getting these during the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale. They also come in black and a pretty grey suede.

 

Vince Camuto Peera Cutout Bootie

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I love the color of this pair and the side zipper is cute too.

 

Steve Madden Tobii Bootie

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A classic bootie that would go with most anything. I'd pair them with jeans and a comfy tee or flannel shirt.

Dolce Vita Tessey Bootie

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This color is so pretty, and I just adore the perforations.

 

Hinge Villa Perforated Bootie

 

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Can you tell I have a thing for perforations? Ha! These look a little biker chic to me, which, I'm not going to lie I'm liking. 

Vince Camuto Casha Perforated Bootie

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Y'all know the Minnetonka fringe booties that were really popular last season? I have a pair, and they are so comfy...and I plan on wearing them again this fall and winter! I like these because they look a little more streamlined and feminine. I also like the knots at the top of the tassels, and the color is really pretty.

 

Ugg Shenendoah Fringe Ankle Boot

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The olive color of this pair is so pretty, and I also like the scalloped trim at the top of the ankle...which makes them a little more feminine in my book.

 

Jack Rogers Bailee Bootie

 

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Very similar to the Dolce Vita Tessey bootie above...another classic option for your fall wardrobe.

 

Dolce Vita Slade Bootie

 

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The cutouts on this pair have me swooning. I also love the somewhat Western feel.

 

Seychelles Waypoint Bootie

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I adore this casual pair by Kate Spade. They're on the high end, price-wise, but fingers crossed they'll go on sale. How cute is that side tassel?

Kate Spade Bellamy Tassel Zip Bootie

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What do y'all think of my picks? Do you have any others to add? Who else is excited to pull out their booties soon? I hope

 everyone has a happy day!

Life Lately

Hope everyone had a wonderful long weekend! They truly are the best! We've had some really happy times over here, and I wanted to share them all with you!

 

First things first, we received the world's BEST news last week! We found out in early June that my Dad had relapsed for the second time and was living with mantle cell lymphoma. It was a devastating blow, and the time since there has been a lot of anxiety in the waiting. Dad started chemo again, and thankfully he has done very well on it with minimal side effects. But the what-ifs remained until it was time for his first scan. That first scan was last week, and we got the news Friday that his scan was negative...meaning NO signs of cancer!!!!!! Many tears of joy followed, and we are SO thankful and grateful and ecstatic...and we finally feel like we can breathe again. He'll meet with his doctor in a few weeks to decide the next course of action, which will likely involve continued chemo, especially since he does so well on this regimen. Life can be so hard and can bring you to your knees at times...so for now we are relishing in the good. Thank you to my precious friends and family who have prayed for us. Thank you for reaching out and checking on us. Thank you for reminding us that even during hard times there still remains a lot of good.

 

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It's kind of hard to top that (!!!), but I'll give y'all a run-down of other things that have been going on in our life.

 

Hadley and I have been busy bees lately, as we've been spending a lot of time at the Magnolia Speech School to get her fully evaluated and to determine the next steps needed to get her up to speed with her articulation. Local folks, that place is a gift...I couldn't recommend it enough. I've met with several of the directors, and I firmly believe they are angels on this earth. I feel the same way about our speech therapist. Right now we're meeting with her two afternoons a week, and she has been a huge blessing. I can already see an improvement in Hadley's speech, and that brings me (and her!) so much joy!

 

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Friday night we did our typical Friday night thing and had Mexican at a local restaurant here. We always go to this restaurant for two reasons: 1) They have gum and peppermint patties at the register, and after dinner Lily loves getting both. 2) There is a water fountain out front, and the girls think throwing coins in it is the best thing ever.

 

 

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Saturday we woke up early and headed to Starkville. Rob wanted to watch his beloved Bulldogs play, and my grandparents live there. So it was a win-win! Rob dropped the girls and me off at Nana and Grandad's house, and he met up with a friend at the game. We had such a fun time with my grandparents, as always. I feel so fortunate to have the both of them in my life.

 

 

And y'all see my Nana in the picture above? Fingers crossed I got her genes...isn't she beautiful?

 

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Sunday we sadly skipped church because our house looked like it had robbed. I am a neat freak, but I've learned (especially lately) that in life something's got to give. And last week it was the house. I may have had my children taken care of and dinner on the table every night, but our house was a hot mess. So we cleaned on Sunday and finally got things back on track! We even pulled out the Halloween decorations (early, I know, but I'm a big believer in #carpediembaby). I'm going to try to finish those up today, and I'll do a Fall House Tour soon. I think it's been said before, but I LOVE this time of year. And cheesy decorations bring both me and my girls a lot of joy. So we went for it.

 

I picked up the centerpiece below at our local HomeGoods and thought it would be a fun addition for the fall...what do y'all think?

 

 

I figured we needed some sweets to keep us going, and it was the perfect excuse to make my favorite sugar cookies, complete with fall icing and sprinkles! **For the icing recipe, check it out here. It takes slice and bake cookies to a whole new level!**

 

I was in TJ Maxx last week and had a second to browse their Halloween costumes. There were a few I loved for Hadley, but I ended up choosing the one below. I mean, how stinking cute is it?!? She has had no opinion this year on her Halloween costume, so I'm savoring probably the last time I get to choose for her! Lily wants to be Skye from Paw Patrol, so I'm on the lookout for that for her.

 

 

And, yes, I am a walking cliché...except I don't like the beloved Pumpkin Spice Lattes. But everything else fall I'm a typical white girl.

 

 

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We had dinner with my parents on Sunday night, a Labor Day/celebration of Dad's news get-together. That was a lot of fun, as always. Rob's parents had come into town as well, and we visited with them after dinner. I worked yesterday, so Rob and his parents had a full day with the girls. I'll find out more today, but I believe a trip to Build-a-Bear was a big part of their day. I tell ya, I wish I had come up with that genius idea.

 

Work was busy but good. I had some sweet patients, and one of them told me he was going to miss me today. Made my day. I feel so lucky to get to do what I do.

 

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Today I'm playing catch-up around here, and Hadley and I have another speech appointment this afternoon. Today the thing that's going to give is sadly going to be dinner...not sure I'll have a chance for a grocery run...but there's some bread and a jar of peanut butter in the pantry so we're good!

 

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I hope everyone else has a fabulous start to their week. What do y'all have going on? What's the thing that typically gives in your house? Laundry, dinner, showering (ha!)? I'd love to know! I'll leave y'all with this...please tell me I'm not the only one to whom this happens? :)

 



Black Bean Burgers

I recently ran across this recipe for The Pioneer Woman's Black Bean Burgers, and I knew I wanted to try them. The reviews were great, and they looked simple...plus, we're always trying to find ways to add more protein to our diet.

 

I made these last night, and they were amazing. Rob is a huge carnivore and even he loved them! They were easy to patty up, and the patties kept their shape. I doubled the recipe and came up with 9 patties total. That's two nights worth of meals plus leftovers to freeze. #winning

 

Hope y'all enjoy them as much as we did!

 

 

Black Bean Burgers

{The Pioneer Woman}

 

2 cups black beans, drained and mashed with a fork

1 cup seasoned breadcrumbs

1/4 cup grated white onion

1 egg

1/2 teaspoon chili powder

Salt and pepper

Olive oil, for oiling pan

 

Mix together the beans, breadcrumbs, onions, chili powder, egg, and some salt and pepper in a medium bowl. Form the mixture into patties.

 

Preheat a pan over medium-high heat and add olive oil. Cook the burger 4 minutes per side. Serve on a toasted bun with desired toppings. I spread chipotle mayonnaise on both sides of the bun and let a slice of Havarti cheese melt over the burger. I also added fresh lettuce. It was perfection!!

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Hope everyone has a great day! It's September!!

Six Reasons I Love My Jord Watch

When the nice folks at JORD reached out to see if I'd be interested in trying one of their wood watches, I was ecstatic! I've always been a watch girl and feel like I can't function if I leave home without it. Plus, I'd already seen several of my blogging buddies sporting them, and I thought they were really lovely and distinct...and unlike any other watch I own. Mens Wooden Watches

I had a hard time choosing which watch was my favorite, but in the end I went with the Frankie Zebrawood & Champagne. I liked the size and the color of the watch and knew it'd fit right in with my lifestyle and wardrobe.

 

 I've been wearing my watch since it came in the mail a few weeks ago, and I've been so, so pleased. Those who know me well know I love making lists, so I thought I'd do that here...as a way to tell you why I'm smitten with my watch. With that said, here you go!

 

Six Reasons I Love My JORD Watch

1) The packaging.

I'm not going to lie, I do love a pretty package and a pretty presentation. It just makes the item (whatever it may be!) stand out all the more. My JORD watch arrived in a beautiful small wooden box, which both girls immediately claimed as their own. The watch was secured by a cushy pillow of sorts, and Lily's dolls now claim that as their bedtime pillow.

 

2) It's versatile.

The colors of the watch are light and earthy and therefore neutral enough to wear with almost anything. The fact that it's made of wood keeps it casual yet pulled together.

 

 3) It's unique.

Have you ever heard of a watch made of wood? Me neither. There are so many watches on the market today, and these stand out. For the women's watches in particular, there are seven series (or styles) to choose from. Once you've chosen the style you like, there are a variety of wood materials and face colors to choose among.

 

4) It's a nice mix of feminine and masculine.

I love the look of a chunky watch. I think it looks so good paired with more streamlined pieces like skinny jeans or a dainty bracelet.

 

 5) It's lightweight.

This was a must for me. I have pretty small wrists, and while I like the chunky look, I don't want the chunky feel! This watch feels like I'm wearing hardly anything at all on my wrist, and I love that.

6) It's a conversation piece.

I can't tell you how many times people have commented on my watch. The grocery store, the post office, and the pediatrician's office are just a few. And everyone says the same thing: "I've never seen a wood watch!" And it's always kind of fun when something you're wearing receives positive attention, right?

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My friends at JORD have generously offered my readers a chance to win a $75 e-voucher good toward any of their beautiful watches. Even if you don't win, everyone who enters the giveaway will receive a $20 e-gift code. I know it's only August, but the holidays will be upon us soon. I'm already starting to think about Christmas gifts for my loved ones. Any of these watches would make a beautiful gift, and a discount never hurts, right?

Click on the link below to enter. It's easy as pie. Contest ends 9/25/16, and the winner will be contacted directly by JORD.

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Check out the full line of JORD's women's watches here.

 
If you adore my watch as much as I do, you can check it out specifically here.

 

**A big thank you to JORD Wood Watches for sponsoring this post. It goes without saying, but all opinions are my own.**